My pronouns are:

they/them/themself

(Singular “they”)

Example usage in sentences:

  • I think they are very nice.
  • I asked them if I can borrow their pencil.
  • They told me that the house is theirs.
  • They said they would rather do it themself.
Singular “they” has been used in English to describe an unspecified person since the late 1300s (it's even older than singular “you”!). Nowadays, it's the most popular choice among people who prefer gender neutral forms. It starts being accepted by dictionaries too.
It is also common to use “themselves” as a reflexive form.

Table:

Subject Object Possessive determiner Possessive pronoun Reflexive
they them their theirs themself

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Examples from cultural texts:

Singular “they” (they/them)

This list of sources includes both the version with “themselves” and “themself”, as well as those that don't happen to use reflexive.
  • ALOKBio on personal website, 2017

    • ALOK (they/them) is a gender non-conforming writer and performance artist. Their distinctive style and poetic challenge to the gender binary have been internationally renowned. As a mixed-media artist Alok uses poetry, prose, comedy, performance, fashion design, and portraiture to explore themes of gender, race, trauma, belonging, and the human condition. They are the author of Femme in Public (2017) and Beyond the Gender Binary (2020). In 2019 they were honored as one of NBC’s Pride 50 and Out Magazine’s OUT 100. They have presented their work in more than 40 countries.
  • William ShakespeareThe Comedy of Terrors (Act 4, Scene 3), 1595

    • There's not a man I meet but doth salute me
      As if I were their well-acquainted friend
  • Dana TerraceThe Owl House (Season 2, Episode 7), 2021; Raine Whispers is the first non-binary character of Disney and they're voiced by the also non-binary voice artist, Avi Roque

    • "So the Head Witch of the Bard Coven likes pretending to be a rebel. Too bad they're not very good at it!"

  • Dana TerraceThe Owl House (Season 2, Episode 8), 2021; Raine Whispers is the first non-binary character of Disney and they're voiced by the also non-binary voice artist, Avi Roque

    • "Just tell them! Let them help!"
    • "Stop pushing them away!"

  • Hamish SteeleDead End - Paramormal Parl, 2022

    • "[...]Anway, hello, I'm Jules.
      My pronouns are they, them, and the late.
      [laughs] A little, uh, ghost jokes for you there."
  • Matt BralyAmphibia, ; Darcy is referred to with a variety of pronouns, including it/its and they/them.

  • Rebecca SugarSteven Universe Future (Episode: Litte Graduation ), 2019

    • "Great. They're so cool. I can't believe we've been dating for almost two months, now."
    • "Say "Hi" to them for me"
    • "Shep is Sadie's new partner. They met while she was on tour with the Suspects."
  • AJ and the Queen (Season 1, Episode 2: Pittsburgh), 2020

    • Or, actually, I'm not sure where he or she or they is on the gender non-binary scale.

  • Billions (Season 2, Episode 2), 2017

    • Hello, I'm Taylor. My pronouns are they, theirs, and them.
    • – She spotted that from outer space?
      – Not she. They.

  • Blockbuster (S01 E05), 2022

    • Left, left, left. I hate Quinn. I don't even know if they like movies. They come in here all the time and make everything about themselves.
    • [...] and Quinn, who never stops talking about themself, no offense.
  • City of Ghosts (Season 1, Episode 2: Venice), 2021

    • My name is Thomas. I use "they" and "them" for my pronouns.

  • DeGrassi: Next Class (Season 4, Episode 6 “#FactsOnly”), 2017

    • My favorite vlogger did a thing about this. They identify as genderqueer. Or, I think there’s another name for it. Um... Genderfluid. They feel like they’re between a boy or a girl. Or both. Or neither.

  • Glow Up (Season 3, Episode 3), 2021

    • My look is based on Claude Cahun. They were a non-binary, queer artist that played with gender and image and reclaiming the way you're perceived.

  • Glow Up (Season 3, Episode 7), 2021

    • One hour has passed and Jack has decided to play their Val card.

  • Lucifer (S6:E7: My Best Fiend's Wedding), 2021

    • My tailor would be personally offended if I didn't allow them to help you out in this time of need. They're a total genius. Saved me after the short-suiting debacle.

  • Metal Shop Masters (Season 1, Episode 1; Netflix), 2021

    • Rae just has to take hers apart. Seven has to throw theirs away.
    • Things were already made. They just stuck them together.

  • New Amsterdam (season 6, episode 6), 2019

    • Miss Verdene, well, I am Dr. Bloom, and this here is Nurse Brunstetter. And they're gonna take care of your lacerations.
  • One Day at a Time (Season 2, Episode 3: "To Zir, With Love"), 2018

    • – Anyway, I started talking to Syd and I found out we have so much in common. And I know you're not crazy about me dating, but I was just wondering if I could get ice cream with them.
      – And by "them" you mean just Syd?
      – Yes!

  • Our Flag Means Death (Season 1, Episode 7), 2022

    • But Jim's the kind of person where if they stabbed me, I'd be like, “Yeah, I probably deserved it.”
  • Sex Education (Season 3, Episode 2; Netflix), 2021

    • – I know her. Well, I mean, she bumped into me the other day.
      – My pronouns are they/them but no worries. I'm Cal.

  • She-Ra and the Princesses of Power, 2019

    • Lord Hordak, I’d like to introduce you to Double Trouble. They’re our newest asset in taking down the Rebellion. (Season 4, Episode 3)
    • We captured Double Trouble! They’re refusing to talk to us, but... still! (Season 4, Episode 8)
  • Star Trek: Discovery (Season 3 Episode 8, “The Sanctuary”), 2020

    • – But even so, their work has been nothing short of stellar. They're... really something.
      They're also awake.

  • Star Trek: Strange New Worlds (Season 1 Episode 7, "The Serene Squall"), 2022

  • Avinash ChakBeyond 'he' and 'she': The rise of non-binary pronouns (BBC News), 2015

    • kat baus, a non-binary student who graduated from Harvard this year - and who also writes their name without capital letters - regrets that the university's computer system was not introduced earlier. "It would have been a lot easier and less awkward," baus says.
      baus sent emails or visited professors during office hours to explain their gender identity and pronouns. In smaller classes they (baus) brought it up when introducing themself.
  • Jamie FeldmanHow Being The First Non-Binary Person Vying For Miss Colorado USA Changed Their Life (HuffPost), 2019

    • Their friends and family were wary but supportive ― so much so that Stecina quickly collected enough money to cover the application fee through fundraising on social media ― and after publicly announcing their intention to compete, they found themself in a particularly vulnerable place.
  • Alison FloodMarieke Lucas Rijneveld wins International Booker for The Discomfort of Evening (The Guardian), 2020

    • In their acceptance speech, Rijneveld said they wrote the words “be relentless” on the wall above their desk while writing their novel.
      “Today, when the world has been turned upside down and is showing its dark side, I often remember those words. So, write, read, win, lose, love each other, but be relentless in this,” they said.