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My pronouns are:

he/him or she/her or it/its or they/them or xe/xem

(Interchangeable forms: Normative “he/him” or Normative “she/her” or Personal “it” or Singular “they” or Neopronoun “xe/xem”)

Example usage in sentences:

  • I think he is very nice.
  • I met him recently.
  • Is this his dog?
  • He told me that the house is his.
  • He said he would rather do it himself.

Table:

Subject Object Possessive determiner Possessive pronoun Reflexive
he him his his himself

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Examples from cultural texts:

Normative “he/him” (he/him)

  • Eiichiro Oda – Nami shows her Loyalty to the Crew!, 2021

    • “He's the king of pirates..”

  • Kohei Horikoshi – My Hero Academia (Translator: Caleb Cook) , 2016 ; Chapter: "Shoto Todoroki: Origin"

    • “That Midoriya kid kept prodding at him and got beaten because of it.”
    • “Wasn't his plan to just keep provoking him, though?”
    • “Gotta admire his vigor.”

  • Scott Cawthon – Five Nights at Freddy's 2, 2014

    • “In the game Five Nights at Freddy's 2, the character Mangle, also referred to as "The Mangle," canonically uses she/him pronouns. In Phone Guy's call on the third night, he says "I think the employees refer to him as just 'The Mangle. '" ”
    • “Additionally, part of his description in Five Nights at Freddy's: Ultimate Custom Night, part of her description says "...once Mangle reaches the vent opening he will never leave. Use the vent-snare to prevent her from making it that far."”
    • “When the creator of the game, Scott Cawthon, was asked about Mangle's gender, he says that her gender is "Yes."”

  • Eric Kripke – Gen V, 2023 ; Jordan Li is the main character of the series “Gen V”; they are a bigender person. Two actors appear in this role: London Thor and Derek Luh.

  • Canadian actor Elliot Page shares he is transgender (CBC News) , 2020

    • “Page said he has been inspired by many in the trans community, and thanked them for their courage, generosity and working to make the world a more inclusive and compassionate place.
      While Page said his joy is real, it is also "fragile." Despite feeling profoundly happy and acknowledging his privilege, he is also scared of the invasiveness, the hate, the jokes and the violence.      ”

  • Jorge Luis Borges – The Garden of Forking Paths (Original title: El jardín de senderos que se bifurcan" (1941)) , 1948

    • “He was Governor of Yunnan and gave up temporal power to write a novel with more characters than there are in the Hung Lou Meng, and to create a maze in which all men would lose themselves. ”

  • Ursula K. Le Guin – The Left Hand of Darkness, 1969

    • “He was so feminine in looks and manner that I once asked him how many children he had. He looked glum. He had never borne any. He had, however, sired four. It was one of the little jolts I was always getting. Cultural shock was nothing much compared to the biological shock I suffered as a human male among human beings who were, five-sixths of the time, hermaphroditic neuters.”
    • “Seven years we were kemmerings, and had two sons. Being of his flesh born they had his name Foreth rem ir Osboth, and were reared in that Clanhearth. Three years ago he had gone to Orgny Fastness and he wore now the gold chain of a Celibate of the Foretellers. We had not seen each other those three years, yet seeing his face in the twilight under the arch of stone I felt the old habit of our love as if it had been broken yesterday, and knew the faithfulness in him that had sent him to share my ruin. And feeling that unavailing bond close on me anew, I was angry; for Ashe’s love had always forced me to act against my heart.”

  • Linsey Miller – Mask of Shadows, 2017 ; a genderfluid character who goes by he, she or they depending on what they’re wearing

  • Cavetown – This Is Home, 2015 ; Includes themes of aromanticism, being transgender.

    • “Often I am upset that I cannot fall in love but I guess
      This avoids the stress of falling out of it      ”
    • “Ooh... I'll cut my hair
      Ooh... to make you stare
      Ooh... I'll hide my chest
      And I'll figure out a way to get us out of here      ”
    • “Get a load of this monster
      He doesn't know how to communicate
      His mind is in a different place
      Will everybody please give him a little bit of space
      Get a load of this train-wreck
      Hishair's a mess and he doesn't know who he is yet
      But little do we know, the stars
      Welcome him with open arms      ”

  • The Spook School – Richard and Judy, 2015

    • “You tell your son
      That when he's older
      You’ll take him out chasing girls       ”
    • “He doesn’t understand
      But he'll get there in the end
      And the boys, the boys the boys, the boys
      Will handle themselves      ”

Normative “she/her” (she/her)

  • Maddy Thorson – Is Madeline Canonically Trans? (Medium) , 2018

    • “I mentioned earlier that I didn’t know that Madeline was trans during the development of Celeste, and that I had a hunch when we made Farewell. That was a gradual thing. As time went on post-launch, my personal understanding of Madeline shifted from “maybe she’s trans” to “okay she’s definitely trans”.”

  • Plasterbrain – Pizza game (Art by Brendan Blabber (Jelloapocolypse)) , 2019 ; Warped lamp goes by she/her (shes trans, confirmed by the game creator/artist (Jelloapocolypse) on Tumblr and cannonically comes out to the protagonist mid-g

    • “"Well... if her reason is lvoe, maybe I can sort of under. Stand"”
    • “"I guess question IS... do I return her feelings?" ”
    • “"And she IS making a sparkly face at me..."”

  • Scott Cawthon – Five Nights at Freddy's 2, 2014

    • “In the game Five Nights at Freddy's 2, the character Mangle, also referred to as "The Mangle," canonically uses she/him pronouns. In Phone Guy's call on the third night, he says "I think the employees refer to him as just 'The Mangle. '" ”
    • “Additionally, part of his description in Five Nights at Freddy's: Ultimate Custom Night, part of her description says "...once Mangle reaches the vent opening he will never leave. Use the vent-snare to prevent her from making it that far."”
    • “When the creator of the game, Scott Cawthon, was asked about Mangle's gender, he says that her gender is "Yes."”

  • Warframe – Ticker, ; Ticker was perhaps one of the first realistic transgender characters in the games industry, not only because she has an amazing story which enriches her personality, but she wasn't just her gender. Ticker is a strong hearted queen of redemption [...]

  • Cyberpunk 2077, 2021 ; Claire was a former Militech engineer before eventually quitting and opening her own autoshop. [...] At one point in her past, Claire was close friends with a man named Dean Russell, who supported Claire through her transition from male to female [...]

  • Eric Kripke – Gen V, 2023 ; Jordan Li is the main character of the series “Gen V”; they are a bigender person. Two actors appear in this role: London Thor and Derek Luh.

  • Matt Braly – Amphibia, ; Darcy is referred to with a variety of pronouns, including it/its and they/them.

  • Alicja Ptak, Marcin Gocłowski – Thousands protest in Poland demanding release of LGBT activist (Reuters) , 2020

    • “The police started releasing detained protesters on Saturday, but not Margot.
      She is a member of the activist group “Stop Bzdurom”. The group have said they hung flags on statues last week as part of a fight for LGBT rights, an issue thrust into the heart of public debate in Poland during last month’s presidential election.      ”

  • Robin Pogrebin – Lauren Halsey Brings Her Vision of South Central Los Angeles to New York (Naima Green for the New York Times) , 2022

    • “She gathers whatever items catch her eye along the way and takes photos on her phone. Those finds, together with the ephemera she has saved since her teenage years of making collages (magazine clippings, church figurines, shiny foil palm trees, miniature cars, aquarium plants), fill every corner of Halsey’s Los Angeles studio and gradually make their way into her artwork.”
    • “Through her installations Halsey is honoring the community that nurtured and inspired her — not only her mother, a teacher, or her father, an accountant, but the church, the convenience stores, her bus route, her relatives and community centers. She is also documenting a particular segment of society, elevating an urban vernacular that often gets devalued or ignored.”
    • ““She’s not trying to unpack notions of racism, she’s just trying to celebrate Blackness,” said the artist Charles Gaines, who taught Halsey when she] was an undergraduate at the California Institute of the Arts. “She’s trying to bring into the realm of art things that are thought to be low culture, things that are victimized by a certain stereotype.””

  • Jacob Stolworthy – Eddie Izzard praised after fans notice use of she/her pronouns in latest TV appearance (The Independent) , 2020

    • “Earlier this week, the stand-up comedy star, 58, appeared on Sky Arts series Portrait Artist of the Year in which the show’s host Stephen Mangan and contestants referred to Izzard as “she” and “her”. Izzard’s fans, who were catching up with the show at the weekend, have posted supportive messages on social media.”
    • “Speaking about her decision, Izzard told contestant Chris Holder: "This is the first programme I've asked if I can be 'she' and 'her' – this is a little transition period." She said “it feels very positive”, adding: “I just want to be based in girl mode from now on.””

  • Joe Strike – Furry Nation, 2017 ; A genderfluid person is referred to by she/her

    • “The word "visionary" is tossed around a lot these days, usually referring to sci-fi and fantasy movie directors (whether they deserve it or not), but LeeLee's fiancé, Thadd, has definitely earned the title. For starters, Thadd has a "post-gender" identity, a concept a lot of people are still having trouble wrapping their heads around.
      "I don't care what pronouns people use. Most people think of me as female, while others may assume I'm male and apologize when my voice pitch changes mid-conversation. I never really think of myself as female or male. In a gender-fluid sense I may feel female today and male the next. I'm always just me."      ”
    • “Thadd's "department" is the still relatively young field of 3D printing. When I asked her what piqued her interest in the technology, she tells me, "In a way I've always been interested in the technology. Sculpting with clay seemed so painfully slow, and many, many times I wished for the literal invention of 3D printing."”

  • Ursula K. Le Guin – Winter's King (in: The Wind's Twelve Quarters) , 1975

    • ““Argaven looked at them, face after face, the bowed heads and the unbowed.
      “I am Argaven,” she said. “I was king. Who reigns now in Karhide?”      ”

  • Ann Leckie – Ancillary Justice, 2013

    • “She was probably male, to judge from the angular mazelike patterns quilting her shirt. I wasn’t entirely certain. It wouldn’t have mattered, if I had been in Radch space. Radchaai don’t care much about gender, and the language they speak—my own first language—doesn’t mark gender in any way. This language we were speaking now did, and I could make trouble for myself if I used the wrong forms. It didn’t help that cues meant to distinguish gender changed from place to place, sometimes radically, and rarely made much sense to me.”

  • Linsey Miller – Mask of Shadows, 2017 ; a genderfluid character who goes by he, she or they depending on what they’re wearing

  • Thomas Anderson and Mike Dahlin – Operating Systems Principles & Practice (Second Edition) Volume II: Concurrency, 2015

    • “When an electrician walks into a room she wired last month, she does not have to spend time trying to remember which color is which.”
    • “Once a philosopher picks up a chopstick, she does not release it until she is done eating, even if that means no one will ever eat.”

  • The Neighbourhood – Sweater Weather, ; There are two main love interests in this song; when the lead singer references "she," the lyrics are referring to a partner using she/her pronouns. However, when the lead singer references "you," the love interest has switched and the gender is unknown.

    • “Coming down
      One love, two mouths
      One love, one house
      No shirt, no blouse
      Just us, you find out
      Nothing that I wouldn't wanna tell you about, no, no, no
      'Cause it's too cold
      For you here
      And now, so let me hold
      Both your hands in the holes of my sweater      ”

  • YUNGBLUD – mars (from the album “weird!”) , 2020 ; This song is a pretty simple but sad story of a trans woman.

    • “She dreamed she'd go to California
      There everyone would adore her
      And all her mates will call her
      'Til four in the morning”      ”
    • “But she can't be herself when she's somebody else”
    • “In the morning, she would take her mother's wedding ring”

Personal “it” (it/its)

  • "My pronouns are it/its", said Grembi. (Analog Horror: Grembi's Night Show) , ; Grembi is a non-human entity who uses it/its. It's creator has said that even if it was human, it'd still use it/it's. Also, Grembi is a canon pansexual, genderqueer and drag monarch.

    • “"My pronouns are it/its." (from it's rentry)
      "It's name is Mx. G, or Grembi. Nice person, y'know. Always helping someone out when they need. It's just... Weird sometimes. My friend once told me he saw it chasing my friend, ___"       ”

  • Matt Braly – Amphibia, ; Darcy is referred to with a variety of pronouns, including it/its and they/them.

  • Beth Greenfield – Here’s why some LGBTQ youth are now embracing the nonbinary pronoun ‘it/its’ (Yahoo!Life) , 2021

    • “Discussions around this aspect of “it/its” are ongoing on social media, with a recent TikTok user (Maeve.digital, below) responding to commenters who were too offended by the pronoun to ever use it. "It's ironic," it says, "because basically what you're saying is 'I want to respect you, therefore I'm not going to use the pronouns that you just told me to use.'”
    • “It certainly plays a part in Rouke’s choosing the pronoun — as does being autistic, it explains — because choosing the pronoun is the “reclaiming of dehumanization and ‘otherness’ through the positive use of pronouns typically used in a derogatory manner by others.”
    • “It recently tweeted about the topic.”

  • Patric Fallon – Arca Is the Artist of the Decade (Vice) , 2019

    • “The Venezuela-born artist, who came out as non-binary in 2018 and uses the pronouns "she" and "it," has come to embody practically every positive thing that is synonymous with the 2010s.”

  • Bruce Coville – Aliens Ate My Homework, 1993 ; Initally the character is referred to as a "he" by the narrator; later, after it asks to - as an "it".

    • ““Okay,” I said. “Just tell me what pronoun to use when I’m talking about him. Her. Uh, it. I mean . . . see what I mean?”
      “It will do just fine,” said Tar Gibbons.
      “What will do just fine?”
      “It will,” he repeated.
      “What will?”
      “It. Refer to me as an it.”
      “That seems pretty rude,” I said nervously.
      “Not as rude as calling me a he or a she,” it said.      ”
    • “Before I could answer, or ask the Tar why it kept calling me “Young Rod Allbright,” Plink went scooting back in the other direction, carrying something that looked like the interstellar version of a monkey wrench.”
    • ““Pet flap?” asked Tar Gibbons.
      “It's a special little door that lets the dog go in and out on his own.”
      “Very thoughtful,” said Tar Gibbons approvingly.
      I decided not to tell it that Mom had installed the flap more for our convenience than for Bonehead's.      ”

  • Martha Wells – The Murderbot Diaries, 2017

    • “On a distant planet, a team of scientists are conducting surface tests, shadowed by their Company-supplied 'droid -- a self-aware SecUnit that has hacked its own governor module, and refers to itself (though never out loud) as "Murderbot." Scornful of humans, all it really wants is to be left alone long enough to figure out who it is. ”

  • Ian McDonald – River of Gods, 2004 ; spelled "yt" in the book but otherwise used and pronounced the same way as personal "it"

    • “A sudden lurch throws Tal from the bench seat. The phatphat bounces to a stop. Tal rearranges yts thermal scatter coat, tuts at the dust on yts silk pants, then notices the soldiers. Six of them phase out of rural night camouflage.”

Singular “they” (they/them)

  • ALOK – Bio on personal website, 2017

    • “ALOK (they/them) is a gender non-conforming writer and performance artist. Their distinctive style and poetic challenge to the gender binary have been internationally renowned. As a mixed-media artist Alok uses poetry, prose, comedy, performance, fashion design, and portraiture to explore themes of gender, race, trauma, belonging, and the human condition. They are the author of Femme in Public (2017) and Beyond the Gender Binary (2020). In 2019 they were honored as one of NBC’s Pride 50 and Out Magazine’s OUT 100. They have presented their work in more than 40 countries.”

  • arcadekitten – It's not me, it's my basement, 2021 ; Embry it's confirmed as a non binary character by the creator of the game "It's not me, it's my basement".

  • Blizzard Entertainment – Meet the Mercenaries – Varden Dawngrasp (a new character in the game Hearthstone) , 2021

    • “A curious intellectual seeking redemption in the eyes of their people…

      Dawngrasp spent most of their life in Silvermoon, a curious young elf and student of all things magical. They showed a preternatural gift for the arcane, quickly mastering various schools of magical thought. They were trained by Prince Kael’thas Sunstrider himself, who was part of the High Council of the Kirin Tor. It looked like Dawngrasp would rise through the ranks of the mages of Quel’thalas and attain the title of Magister.

      Alas, Arthas and the Scourge had other plans. In the aftermath of the destruction of the Sunwell, Kael’thas went to Outland, but Dawngrasp would not go. After the prince’s subsequent betrayal, many of the magisters, Grand Magister Rommath included, suspected that Dawngrasp might be in league with the traitorous prince. Alienated, Dawngrasp turned to their studies for comfort.

      After the Night of Falling Stars, a troll appeared in Silvermoon. His name was Kazakus, and he sought aid in gathering the glowing shards that had rained across the Barrens. Suspicious of the troll’s intentions, Dawngrasp went to Kalimdor of their own accord, seeking knowledge about the power contained inside the shards…      ”

  • Hisashi Nogami – Splatoon (Agent 3), 2015 ; Agent 3, a character starring in all 3 games, is canonically non-binary / has no gender, as the player is able to decide that for themselves.

  • Mobius Digital – Outer Wilds, 2019 ; The hearthians do not have a concept of gender and exclusively refer to each other with they/them pronouns

  • Project Sekai – Mizuki Akiyama (Colorful Palette, Sega Corporation) , 2021 ; Mizuki is a confirmed genderqueer character who uses they/them pronouns and has several image songs about their gender identity, most notably, IDSMILE by toa.

  • softbuns7 – Honkai: Star Rail - Pom-Pom, 2023

    • “Mission Description of "Sudden Sadness":
      Pom-Pom seems to be troubled and depressed. Find something to distract them and brighten up their day.      ”
    • “"If a glass gets broken... Pom-Pom will certainly have a wonderful reaction to it, won't they?" - Inner monologue of the Trailblazer during investigation in the adventure mission "Sudden Sadness"”
    • “Mission Description of "Battle for Health":
      Pom-Pom is starting physical training, but they require your help to practice...

      Steps:
      1. Find Pom-Pom and play ball with them
      ”
    • “"This is Pom-Pom's most prized plant. They'll notice even if one leaf is ever-so-slightly darker." - Inner monologue of the Trailblazer during investigation in the adventure mission "Sudden Sadness"”

  • Toby Fox – Deltarune, 2018 ; Kris Dreemurr is a confirmed non-binary character from the indie RPG "Deltarune"

    • “Huh...? Kris...? Did you say something back there? (... I can't hear them anymore...)”

  • Tillie Walden – On a Sunbeam, 2016

    • “Oh and Ell doesn't talk. No one told me that when I got here and I felt like an idiot. And they're non-binary.”

  • William Shakespeare – The Comedy of Terrors (Act 4, Scene 3) , 1595

    • “There's not a man I meet but doth salute me
      As if I were their well-acquainted friend      ”

  • Wizards of the Coast – Magic: The Gathering, 2020

    • “Niko is a new Planeswalker from the Plane of Theros. Early in Niko's life, an oracle foresaw a great future for Niko: they were destined to be a great athlete, an undefeated javelineer who would never miss a shot. Niko trained and competed for many years, but in all that time, they heard stories and songs of heroes who would fight to protect people and began to question the destiny prescribed to them. Eventually, Niko decided to challenge fate itself and, to the shock of many, purposefully lost a competition. The realization that they could control their own fate set Niko on their new path: a young Planeswalker seeking to become a true hero like they had always dreamed.”

  • Battlefield 2042, 2021

    • “Sundance definitely likes to live on the edge. They're a skilled and fearless adversary that's had two very different lives – one as a model soldier in the Armée de Terre, and an earlier and much darker existence as a trusted associate in a major Parisian crime syndicate. The latter, sadly, came back to haunt them and ended their military career pre-maturely.”
    • “This Assault Specialist is doing their best to keep a low profile among the Non-Patriated, while still using their unique talents to aid the cause whenever they can.”

  • Bloodhound – Apex Legends, 2021

    • “Bloodhound is known across the Outlands as one of the greatest game hunters the Frontier has ever seen. The child of two engineers stationed at the New Dawn industrial plant on Talos, Bloodhound was taken in by their uncle Artur after a meltdown destroyed the facility and killed both their parents. Artur taught them the Old Ways, a belief system that focuses on the glory of nature and rejects modern technology. Yet Bloodhound was constantly drawn to technological marvels, and ultimately used both new and old methods to take down a Goliath that preyed on the people of their village, forever changing their life’s path.”

  • Bugsnax, 2020

    • “Dislikes journalists for painting them as creepy.”
    • “Shelda stroked Lizbert's distrust of Floofty, and they fled.”

  • Fallout 76: Steel Dawn, 2020

    • “Because it suits them better. When I first met Burke... they were different. Secluded. Like they didn't want anyone to see them. Burke flinched when others talked about them. People expected things based on how they looked. They had these... titles. The Silent Man. Albino Dog. One day I asked if something else would feel better. It took some trial and error, but we eventually settled on the neutral 'they'. They're a much happier person now, for the insignificant price of a word.”

  • Shalaxi Helbane (Warhammer minature, Games Workshop) , 2019

    • “Shalaxi Helbane is a monster hunter without compare. Just as fast, lethal and magically adept as a regular Keeper of Secrets, this champion of the Dark Prince has a suite of skills that make them a deadly duellist in both Warhammer 40,000 and Warhammer Age of Sigmar. Bloodthirsters, Hive Tyrants and Stardrakes alike will struggle to face their wrath, making them a superb addition to your Slaanesh or Chaos Daemons army.”

  • Tom Clancy's Rainbow Six Siege: Operation Vector Glare, 2022

    • “Growing up in a tight-knit family unit, Ngoma was able to pursue their interests without much resistance. They learned everything they could about psychology and physics, all the while receiving classical music training with their two younger siblings. Ngoma also learned the basics of mechanics in their father’s garage, effectively rounding out the skillset that they would later apply in their career.”

  • Treble from Papa's Cluckeria uses they/them (taken from the wiki) ,

    • “"They are the first character to appear in a Flipline Studios game to identify as a gender other than male or female."
      "Hailing from the quaint town of Oilseed Springs, Treble is a diligent High School student and an enthusiastic member of the school’s Auto Club. Treble’s life took an exciting turn on their 16th birthday when their father handed over the keys to his old pickup truck. During the following winter, Treble spent countless hours in the garage, revamping the old truck with new parts and their own personal flair. Now, nothing brings them more joy than cruising down the dusty roads of Oilseed Springs on a sweltering summer day."      ”

  • Dana Terrace – The Owl House (Season 2, Episode 7) , 2021 ; Raine Whispers is the first non-binary character of Disney and they're voiced by the also non-binary voice artist, Avi Roque

    • “"So the Head Witch of the Bard Coven likes pretending to be a rebel. Too bad they're not very good at it!"”

  • Dana Terrace – The Owl House (Season 2, Episode 8) , 2021 ; Raine Whispers is the first non-binary character of Disney and they're voiced by the also non-binary voice artist, Avi Roque

    • “"Just tell them! Let them help!"”
    • “"Stop pushing them away!"”

  • Eric Kripke – Gen V, 2023 ; Jordan Li is the main character of the series “Gen V”; they are a bigender person. Two actors appear in this role: London Thor and Derek Luh.

  • Hamish Steele – Dead End - Paramormal Parl, 2022

    • “"[...]Anway, hello, I'm Jules.
      My pronouns are they, them, and the late.
      [laughs] A little, uh, ghost jokes for you there."      ”

  • Matt Braly – Amphibia, ; Darcy is referred to with a variety of pronouns, including it/its and they/them.

  • Rebecca Sugar – Steven Universe Future (Episode: Litte Graduation ) , 2019

    • “"Great. They're so cool. I can't believe we've been dating for almost two months, now."
      ”
    • “"Say "Hi" to them for me"”
    • “"Shep is Sadie's new partner. They met while she was on tour with the Suspects."”

  • AJ and the Queen (Season 1, Episode 2: Pittsburgh) , 2020

    • “Or, actually, I'm not sure where he or she or they is on the gender non-binary scale.”

  • Billions (Season 2, Episode 2) , 2017

    • “Hello, I'm Taylor. My pronouns are they, theirs, and them.”
    • “– She spotted that from outer space?
      – Not she. They.      ”

  • Blockbuster (S01 E05) , 2022

    • “Left, left, left. I hate Quinn. I don't even know if they like movies. They come in here all the time and make everything about themselves.”
    • “[...] and Quinn, who never stops talking about themself, no offense.”

  • City of Ghosts (Season 1, Episode 2: Venice) , 2021

    • “My name is Thomas. I use "they" and "them" for my pronouns.”

  • DeGrassi: Next Class (Season 4, Episode 6 “#FactsOnly”) , 2017

    • “My favorite vlogger did a thing about this. They identify as genderqueer. Or, I think there’s another name for it. Um... Genderfluid. They feel like they’re between a boy or a girl. Or both. Or neither.”

  • Doctor Who – “The Devil's Chord” (S14E02) , 2024

    • “ – [Tutor] Henry, get away from him.
      – [Maestro] Them.
      – [Tutor] What?
      – [Maestro] Me.
      – [Tutor] What?
      – [Maestro] I'm them.
      – [Tutor] You're who?
      – [Maestro] “You're who?”
      ”

  • Glow Up (Season 3, Episode 3) , 2021

    • “My look is based on Claude Cahun. They were a non-binary, queer artist that played with gender and image and reclaiming the way you're perceived.”

  • Glow Up (Season 3, Episode 7) , 2021

    • “One hour has passed and Jack has decided to play their Val card.”

  • Good Omens (S02E02) , 2023

    • “– What did God say?
      – Um… I'm not sure. I didn't understand much. [...]
      – They explain?
      – I think the point was, if you want answers, come back when you can make a whale.
      – And the children? Did They mention the children?      ”

  • Good Omens (S02E03) , 2023

    • “– Beelzebub's not happy with you.
      – Oh really? Beelzebub? Not happy? But they're always such a little ray of sunshine!
      – They're seriously not happy.
      ”

  • Heartbreak High, 2022 ; Darren is non-binary and is referred to with they/them pronouns.

  • Lucifer (S6:E7: My Best Fiend's Wedding) , 2021

    • “My tailor would be personally offended if I didn't allow them to help you out in this time of need. They're a total genius. Saved me after the short-suiting debacle.”

  • Metal Shop Masters (Season 1, Episode 1; Netflix) , 2021

    • “Rae just has to take hers apart. Seven has to throw theirs away.”
    • “Things were already made. They just stuck them together.”

  • New Amsterdam (season 6, episode 6) , 2019

    • “Miss Verdene, well, I am Dr. Bloom, and this here is Nurse Brunstetter. And they're gonna take care of your lacerations.”

  • No Way uses they/them (Object Show: IT'S TIME FOR THE) ,

    • “Taken from the wiki
      "They competed on Earth at first, but they were temporarily switched to Scribble."
      "Despite their levelheaded and rational nature, they are shown to be easily surprised such as when they asked Tile where he went, and when Tile responded with, "you just don't get it dude" they exclaimed in happiness in Best Source For Weather Information."      ”

  • One Day at a Time (Season 2, Episode 3: "To Zir, With Love") , 2018

    • “– Anyway, I started talking to Syd and I found out we have so much in common. And I know you're not crazy about me dating, but I was just wondering if I could get ice cream with them.
      – And by "them" you mean just Syd?
      – Yes!      ”

  • Our Flag Means Death (Season 1, Episode 7) , 2022

    • “But Jim's the kind of person where if they stabbed me, I'd be like, “Yeah, I probably deserved it.””

  • Sex Education (Season 3, Episode 2; Netflix) , 2021

    • “– I know her. Well, I mean, she bumped into me the other day.
      – My pronouns are they/them but no worries. I'm Cal.      ”

  • She-Ra and the Princesses of Power, 2019

    • “Lord Hordak, I’d like to introduce you to Double Trouble. They’re our newest asset in taking down the Rebellion. (Season 4, Episode 3)”
    • “We captured Double Trouble! They’re refusing to talk to us, but... still! (Season 4, Episode 8)”

  • Star Trek: Discovery (Season 3 Episode 8, “The Sanctuary”) , 2020

    • “– But even so, their work has been nothing short of stellar. They're... really something.
      – They're also awake.      ”

  • Star Trek: Prodigy (Season 2 Episode 8: Is There in Beauty no Truth?) , 2024

    • “We have to tell Zero before they start the Running of the Nazamon. Zero doesn't know what they're getting into!”
    • “Z's in danger. We might lose them forever.”

  • Star Trek: Strange New Worlds (Season 1 Episode 7, "The Serene Squall") , 2022

  • Avinash Chak – Beyond 'he' and 'she': The rise of non-binary pronouns (BBC News) , 2015

    • “kat baus, a non-binary student who graduated from Harvard this year - and who also writes their name without capital letters - regrets that the university's computer system was not introduced earlier. "It would have been a lot easier and less awkward," baus says.
      baus sent emails or visited professors during office hours to explain their gender identity and pronouns. In smaller classes they (baus) brought it up when introducing themself.      ”

  • Jamie Feldman – How Being The First Non-Binary Person Vying For Miss Colorado USA Changed Their Life (HuffPost) , 2019

    • “Their friends and family were wary but supportive ― so much so that Stecina quickly collected enough money to cover the application fee through fundraising on social media ― and after publicly announcing their intention to compete, they found themself in a particularly vulnerable place.”

  • Alison Flood – Marieke Lucas Rijneveld wins International Booker for The Discomfort of Evening (The Guardian) , 2020

    • “In their acceptance speech, Rijneveld said they wrote the words “be relentless” on the wall above their desk while writing their novel.
      “Today, when the world has been turned upside down and is showing its dark side, I often remember those words. So, write, read, win, lose, love each other, but be relentless in this,” they said.      ”

  • Ben Kesslen – Nonbinary 'Billions' star Asia Kate Dillon won't be 'made precious' (NBC News) , 2019

    • “As Dillon explains it, when they started as a recurring character in Season 2, Taylor was ”sort of introduced as this moral and ethical center in a very unethical world.” A young, queer and nonbinary person entering the male-dominated hedge fund world, their character acted as an antidote to the hedge fund’s money-hungry male employees. But, as Dillon said, power and money “corrupt” and their character wasn’t immune.”

  • Mordechai Laub – Kacen Callender shares the importance of queer novels (Young Entertainment) , 2020

    • “Kacen Callender is a bestselling and award-winning author. They have written novels for middle school readers, young adult readers, and adults. Kacen Callender born and raised in St. Thomas of the US Virgin Islands. Some of Kacen Callender’s novels include This Is Kind of an Epic Love Story and Felix Ever After. ”

  • Nick Romano – Madagascar animated series welcomes a nonbinary character in Pride episode sneak peek (Entertainment Weekly) , 2021

    • “Ezra Menas couldn't identify with a character on screen until hir mid-20s. The actor from Broadway's Jagged Little Pill and the upcoming West Side Story movie — who identifies as nonbinary and uses zie/hir/they pronouns — saw actor Elliot Fletcher, a trans man, portray Aaron on an episode of The Fosters. It was "real, real late in my life," Menas tells EW. Before that moment, zie would project hir experience onto characters "always hoping for some kind of narrative to come through."”
    • “Thinking back to how little queer representation Menas saw on screen as a kid, they believe a character like Odee would've made hir younger self feel less alone.”

  • Alexis Petridis – Sam Smith: Love Goes review – heartbreak album plays it safe in hard times (The Guardian) , 2020

    • “The lyrics stick fast to romantic misery, from infidelity to perfidious swine interested only in Smith’s bank balance. These are perennial topics for Smith, though as they told Lowe, their first two albums were inspired by unrequited love; Love Goes is apparently their “first proper heartbreak album”. ”

  • R. B. Lemberg (Uncanny Magazine) , 2019

    • “R.B. Lemberg is a queer, bigender immigrant from Ukraine, Russia, and Israel to the US. Their stories and poems have appeared in Lightspeed‘s Queers Destroy Science Fiction, Beneath Ceaseless Skies, Uncanny Magazine, Sisters of the Revolution: A Feminist Speculative Fiction Anthology, and more.”

  • Star Trek: Discovery Introduces First Transgender and Non-Binary Characters (StarTrek.com) , 2020

    • “Del Barrio was in their final year of studies at the London Academy of Music and Dramatic Art when they auditioned for the role of Adira. Del Barrio has been acting in theater and short films since the age of 7, and they’re incredibly excited to make their television acting debut in season three of Discovery.”

  • Top 7 LGBTQ moments of the Tokyo Olympics (Outsports) , 2021

    • “Quinn (who is trans nonbinary) had a Games to remember when they helped Canada win its first gold medal in women’s soccer. Quinn always remembered they represented more than themself, as they said on the “Trans Sporter Room” podcast last year […]”

  • Alechia Dow – The Sound of Stars, 2020

    • “AvR0la has been [M0Rr1S’s] personal assistant and companion since youth. They are nonbinary, efficient and far more sensible than he. Their pale blonde hair is pulled back into a severe bun, and their green eyes shimmer in the reflection they cast in the window.”

  • Alechia Dow – The Sound of Stars, 2020

    • “They open the door and give me a small grin. Their name’s Angel, an enby from the ninth floor. They’re maybe three years older than me, blond, skinny as a rail, with blue eyes that dart back and forth like they’re expecting something, but it might just be their normal expression. I follow them down the dark hall to the former laundry room[...]”

  • Charlie Jane Andrews – The Bookstore at the End of America (short story from the collection A People's Future of the United States) , 2019

    • “Sander stared at the space where Souls on the Land ought to be, and their pale, round face was full of lines. They had a single tattoo of a butterfly clad in gleaming armor, and the wires rained from the shaved back of their skull. They were some kind of engineer for the Anoth Complex.”

  • Daniel José Older – Midnight Horizon (Star Wars: The High Republic) , 2022 ; The High Republic is a multimedia series, the photo seen is from "Galactic Bake-Off Spetacular" which features Kantam Sy and their friend Torban Buck telling a story. Both characters are in both books and comics.

    • ““That’s what I thought,” Kantam said. They raced ahead to smack back the next few shots, taking care to adjust their balance for the weight of each one. With the gunship bearing down on them, Kantam sent the final laser blast zinging directly into it, taking out the cannon and gunner in a sparkling explosion.
      Kantam sidestepped and held out their lightsaber as the gunship hurtled past, shredding a vicious gash into its metal armor.      ”

  • Bernardine Evaristo – Girl, Woman, Other, 2019

    • “they were asked to review the play for a fee for the lifestyle magazine, Rogue Nation, on account of their Twitter following of over a million followers
      which apparently turned them into an ‘influencer'      ”
    • “fancy me bumping into Mx Morgan Malinga! how cool is that? all the way down from oooop North, wey aye, man, I bet you love being in London, are you going to move down?”

  • Jorge Luis Borges – The Garden of Forking Paths (Original title: El jardín de senderos que se bifurcan" (1941)) , 1948

    • “He was Governor of Yunnan and gave up temporal power to write a novel with more characters than there are in the Hung Lou Meng, and to create a maze in which all men would lose themselves. ”

  • Yoon Ha Lee – Phoenix Extravagant, 2020

    • “What did you expect? they asked themself. They'd known about Vei's loyalties from the beginning, even if she had Hwagugin blood. Being intimate with Jebi didn't change her nature. But they couldn't help wishing it were otherwise.”

  • Linsey Miller – Mask of Shadows, 2017 ; a genderfluid character who goes by he, she or they depending on what they’re wearing

  • Daniel José Older – Star Wars: Last Shot, 2018

    • “Now Taka was yelling something, singing, perhaps, in tune with the melodious love song that the world itself sang. They were insistent, there was somewhere apparently they wanted to be, and wanted Han to be, too, which was lovely.”

  • Kelly Robson – Intervention (in Infinity’s End, edited by Jonathan Strahan) , 2018

    • “Émeraude unclipped and offered the doctor their hand. They were a kid with only two modes: all-out or flatline. A few months back, they’d injured themselves cranking on a crimp, completely bowstringing the flexor tendon.”

  • William Shakespeare – The Comedy of Errors (Act IV, Scene III) , 1594 ; Early use of (generic) singular they/them.

    • “There's not a man I meet but doth salute me
      As if I were their well-acquainted friend      ”

  • Sheela Chari – The Unexplainable Disappearance Of Mars Patel (JP McGowan, a non-binary character which is canon in the books but not in the podcast ) , 2019

    • “JP had a fight with their mom this morning and wonders if they'll ever be accepted in this world'.”

  • Tui. T. Sutherland – Wings of Fire; Flames of hope (Chapter 7, page 88) , 2022

    • “"Is it a boy human, or a girl human?" Sky would ask.
      "Neither? Both? We'd have to ask them," Wren said. "They use they and them pronoun. Like that traveling librarian we met, Sky, remember? Sage?"
      "Oh, Right," Sky said      ”

  • William of Palerne – William and the Werewolf, 1375 ; The earliest known example of generic singular "they" usage

    • “Hastely hiȝed eche wiȝt ... til þei neyȝþed so neiȝh ... þere william & his worþi lef were liand i-fere.
      (Moder English: Each man hurried ... til they drew near ... where William and his darling were lying together.)      ”

  • Rowan Williams – The Face in Her Stars (a League of Legends short story) , 2021

    • “I rushed Shorin with a cry. They raised their shield defensively, but I lifted my own and then drove it down, using their front-heavy weight to topple them. In a flash, my sword was over my shield, pointed at their throat. They lifted their sword to the side to show the stroke would have felled them.”

  • Virginia Woolf – Orlando: A Biography, 1928 ; The titular character of Woolf's novel mysteriously changes from a man into a woman at the age of 30 and lives for over 300 years without aging. Singular they is used in the passage describing Orlando's “transformation”.

    • “We may take advantage of this pause in the narrative to make certain statements. Orlando had become a woman--there is no denying it. But in every other respect, Orlando remained precisely as he had been. The change of sex, though it altered their future, did nothing whatever to alter their identity. Their faces remained, as their portraits prove, practically the same. His memory--but in future we must, for convention's sake, say 'her' for 'his,' and 'she' for 'he'--her memory then, went back through all the events of her past life without encountering any obstacle.”

  • The Holy Bible, King James Version. Deutronomy 17:5, 1611 ; Early use of (generic) singular they/them.

    • “Then shalt thou bring forth that man, or that woman (which haue committed that wicked thing) vnto thy gates, euen that man, or that woman, and shalt stone them with stones till they die.”

  • atlas, jhfly – they/them (from the EP “flowers”) , 2018

    • “You know it's they/them, as in me and most of mine
      Some identical identity, I keep 'em close beside      ”

  • Sam Domingo – It’s as if my ears want to close, 2020 ; The poem was part of a performative lecture “When words erase people. Experiences of non-binary people in Poland and the Philippines”

    • “A certain softness is in their voice,
      Almost whispering constant aggression.
      They tell me the slurs, now notes,
      have formed a harmonious hum of
      The melancholy of the linguistic conundrum.
      They sing to me an elegy for their dead name.
      It's as if my ears want to close.

      They smoke for a breather,
      Mimicking the gasps from sudden attacks
      Of "tita," [aunt] "ate," [sister] and "ma'am"
      Invoked from homophobic lungs
      That gave claustrophobic traumas.
      I gulp the air now a pound heavier.
      It's as if their ears want to close.      ”

  • Simon – Cloud 9 (alt pronouns) - Beach Bunny, Tegan and Sara,

    • “But when they love me, I feel like I'm floating
      When they call me pretty, I feel like somebody
      Even when we fade eventually, I'm nothing
      You will always be my favorite form of loving      ”

  • Bandetto uses they/them (LAPFOX TRAX/HALLEY LABS) , ; Bandetto is canonically agender and dating The Quick Brown Fox (making them an agender4agender couple)

    • “From Bandetto's biography: "a pool toy that was animated through unknown means - like, actually unknown. they aren't one of Darius' weird experiments and were invited to HALLEY LABS by Rotteen. they can't speak or use sign language due to their paws, but their gesturing is always very easy to read. they have a strong fondness for TQBF."”

Neopronoun “xe/xem” (xe/xem)

  • Amethyst Liddell – Pokémon Reborn (fan game) , 2013 ; Adrienn Flores is a nonbinary character who uses xe/xem/xyr pronouns.

    • “Cain: "So then for pronouns.."
      Adrienn: "Xe/xem/xyr will be fine in place of, for instance, he/him/his."      ”

  • EnbyMo – Poki's Lokis (a mod for Stardew Valley) , 2023

    • “Adds a shopkeeper to the Cindersap Forest, west of the Hat Mouse, named Poki. (Poki uses xe/xem/xyr/xyrs/xemself pronouns. Xe is friends with the Hat Mouse. You cannot talk to xem, xe is just a map tile at the moment, but I may be making xem into an NPC in 1.6.) Xe sells various seeds and recipes. Compatible with SVE, Stardew Reimagined 3, and Cape Stardew. Xe is not an alien, xe just uses neopronouns. Also xe dyes xyr hair differently each season.”

  • Inti Creates – Azure Striker Gunvolt, 2015

    • “Xe leads a team of hunters.
      We tried engaging xem, but xe fled to the rooftops of sinner's row.      ”

  • Alex Bollinger – Could this new more inclusive flag replace the rainbow flag? (LGBTQNation.com) , 2018 ; Daniel Quasar was the designer of the progress pride flag.

    • “Xe said that xe was inspired to design the new flag when the Philadelphia Office of LGBT Affairs displayed a version of the rainbow flag with brown and black stripes to represent people of color.

      “I felt there needed to be more thought put into the design and emphasis of the flag to give it more meaning,” xe wrote on Facebook.      ”
    • “Xe is trying to raise $14,000 on KickStarter, mostly to produce nylon flags that are three feet wide and five feet long. Xe has received almost $3000 so far.

      Quasar identifies as a “queer non-binary demiguy” and prefers xe/xem/xyr pronouns.      ”

  • J. Blackburn, K. Gottschewski, Elsa George, and Niki L. – A discussion about Theory of Mind: From an Autistic Perspective (from Autism Europe's Congress) , 2000 ; (2019 reprint in “Autonomy, the Critical Journal of Interdisciplinary Autism Studies” Vol. 1 No. 6)

    • “And if you see that someone has some abilities which are totally inexplicable and like magic to you, it can easily look like xe would be able to do and know everything.”
    • “Of course the nature of knowledge or logic depends on xyr experience, reasoning ability, environment, object of current perseveration and fixation, and so on.”

  • Jim Sinclair – If you could choose… (archived from the original) , 1992

    • “I wouldn't want to miss out on knowing such a person just because xe happened to be the “wrong” sex.”

  • Ashley Shuttleworth – A cruel and fated light, 2022

    • “Very long and lean and disturbingly wraithlike with xis too-sharp features, golden-starlight shimmering skin, ivy-green hair, and eyes that were all electric iris and no pupil at all. Arlo didn't need the distinct tone of rotting in xis aura or the black cloak xe wore to tell her xe was one of the Wild Hunt. But xe was so young--goodness, xe had to be younger than her, even, at least in appearance.”

  • Emery Lee – Meet Cute Diary, 2021 ; Devin, a character from the book, uses both e/em and xe/xem pronouns

  • Artur Nowrot – Dragon Child (#EnbyLife. Journal for Non-Binary & Gender-Diverse Creatives.) , 2021

    • “If you don’t behave, the dragon will get you, people used to say to Yare. Whenever xe was too loud, got carried away during playtime, did not eat something xe was supposed to, when xe didn’t pay xer elders the respect they felt they were owed. Later, when xe struggled with the learning and tasks xe was assigned, when xe wasn’t fast or strong or clever enough, the other children would taunt, Dragon Child! Dragon Child!”
    • “The dragon came quickly. There was a rustle, a swoop, a blow of air, and there drae stood, towering above Yare, iridescent. The dragon looked at Yare, narrowed draer eyes, sizing xer up. Imagine if drae rejected the offering! Please, take me, dragon. Don’t make me more of a failure then I already am.”
    • “When drae found out the truth, drae took the child with draem. And kept draer eye on the villagers. Until gradually the custom shifted and people started giving their children to the dragon. Drae took everyone in.””

What's the deal with pronouns?

Pronouns are those words that we use instead of calling someone by their name every time we mention them. Most people use “he/him” and “she/her”, so we automatically assume which one to call them based on someone's looks. But it's actually not that simple…

Gender is complicated. Some people “don't look like” their gender. Some prefer being called in a different way from what you'd assume. Some people don't fit into the boxes of “male” or “female” and prefer more neutral language.

This tool lets you share a link to your pronouns, with example sentences, so that you can show people how you like to be called.

Why does it matter? Because of simple human decency. You wouldn't call Ashley “Samantha” just because you like that name more or because “she looks like a Samantha to you”. Or even if she does have the name “Samantha” in her birth certificate but she absolutely hates it and prefers to use “Ashley”. And it's the exact same story with pronouns – if you don't want to be rude towards someone, please address them properly. The only difference is that we usually know names, but not pronouns. We introduce ourselves with a name, but not pronouns. Let's change that!

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