My pronouns are:

she/her or they/them

(Interchangeable forms: Normative “she/her” or Singular “they”)

Example usage in sentences:

  • I think she is very nice.
  • I asked her if I can borrow her pencil.
  • She told me that the house is hers.
  • She said she would rather do it herself.

Table:

Subject Object Possessive determiner Possessive pronoun Reflexive
she her her hers herself

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Examples from cultural texts:

Interchangeable forms (she or they)

  • Kim NovakGrey’s Anatomy’s Sara Ramirez confirms they identify as non-binary (Metro), 2020

    • Grey’s Anatomy star Sara Ramirez has told fans they identify as non-binary on Instagram, and will use the pronouns ‘she’ and ‘they’. The actor, 44, who played Callie Torres in the medical series from 2006 until 2016, shared a selfie and told their followers: ‘New profile pic. ‘In me is the capacity to be Girlish boy, Boyish girl, Boyish boy, Girlish girl. All. Neither. #nonbinary’.
  • Rebecca Sugar (Nonbinary Wiki),

    • In July 2018 she [Rebecca Sugar] came out as a nonbinary woman, and stated the Gems in Steven Universe are also nonbinary women. Sugar uses the pronouns she/her or they/them
  • Mother MotherHayloft II,

    • She's not a bad kid
      But she had to do it
      She had to do it
      They're not a bad kid
      But they had to do it
      They couldn't not
      They had to face off
      She's not a bad kid
      But they had to do it
      She had to crack

Normative “she/her” (she/her)

  • Alicja Ptak, Marcin GocłowskiThousands protest in Poland demanding release of LGBT activist (Reuters), 2020

    • The police started releasing detained protesters on Saturday, but not Margot.
      She is a member of the activist group “Stop Bzdurom”. The group have said they hung flags on statues last week as part of a fight for LGBT rights, an issue thrust into the heart of public debate in Poland during last month’s presidential election.
  • Robin PogrebinLauren Halsey Brings Her Vision of South Central Los Angeles to New York (Naima Green for the New York Times), 2022

    • She gathers whatever items catch her eye along the way and takes photos on her phone. Those finds, together with the ephemera she has saved since her teenage years of making collages (magazine clippings, church figurines, shiny foil palm trees, miniature cars, aquarium plants), fill every corner of Halsey’s Los Angeles studio and gradually make their way into her artwork.
    • Through her installations Halsey is honoring the community that nurtured and inspired her — not only her mother, a teacher, or her father, an accountant, but the church, the convenience stores, her bus route, her relatives and community centers. She is also documenting a particular segment of society, elevating an urban vernacular that often gets devalued or ignored.
    • She’s not trying to unpack notions of racism, she’s just trying to celebrate Blackness,” said the artist Charles Gaines, who taught Halsey when she] was an undergraduate at the California Institute of the Arts. “She’s trying to bring into the realm of art things that are thought to be low culture, things that are victimized by a certain stereotype.”
  • Jacob StolworthyEddie Izzard praised after fans notice use of she/her pronouns in latest TV appearance (The Independent), 2020

    • Earlier this week, the stand-up comedy star, 58, appeared on Sky Arts series Portrait Artist of the Year in which the show’s host Stephen Mangan and contestants referred to Izzard as “she” and “her”. Izzard’s fans, who were catching up with the show at the weekend, have posted supportive messages on social media.
    • Speaking about her decision, Izzard told contestant Chris Holder: "This is the first programme I've asked if I can be 'she' and 'her' – this is a little transition period." She said “it feels very positive”, adding: “I just want to be based in girl mode from now on.”
  • Ursula K. Le GuinWinter's King (in: The Wind's Twelve Quarters), 1975

    • “Argaven looked at them, face after face, the bowed heads and the unbowed.
      “I am Argaven,” she said. “I was king. Who reigns now in Karhide?”
  • Ann LeckieAncillary Justice, 2013

    • She was probably male, to judge from the angular mazelike patterns quilting her shirt. I wasn’t entirely certain. It wouldn’t have mattered, if I had been in Radch space. Radchaai don’t care much about gender, and the language they speak—my own first language—doesn’t mark gender in any way. This language we were speaking now did, and I could make trouble for myself if I used the wrong forms. It didn’t help that cues meant to distinguish gender changed from place to place, sometimes radically, and rarely made much sense to me.
  • Linsey MillerMask of Shadows, 2017; a genderfluid character who goes by he, she or they depending on what they’re wearing

  • Plasterbrain Pizza game (Art by Brendan Blabber (Jelloapocolypse)), 2019; Warped lamp goes by she/her (shes trans, confirmed by the game creator/artist (Jelloapocolypse) on Tumblr and cannonically comes out to the protagonist mid-g

    • "Well... if her reason is lvoe, maybe I can sort of under. Stand"
    • "I guess question IS... do I return her feelings?"
    • "And she IS making a sparkly face at me..."
  • Matt BralyAmphibia, ; Darcy is referred to with a variety of pronouns, including it/its and they/them.

  • Joe StrikeFurry Nation, 2017; A genderfluid person is referred to by she/her

    • The word "visionary" is tossed around a lot these days, usually referring to sci-fi and fantasy movie directors (whether they deserve it or not), but LeeLee's fiancé, Thadd, has definitely earned the title. For starters, Thadd has a "post-gender" identity, a concept a lot of people are still having trouble wrapping their heads around.
      "I don't care what pronouns people use. Most people think of me as female, while others may assume I'm male and apologize when my voice pitch changes mid-conversation. I never really think of myself as female or male. In a gender-fluid sense I may feel female today and male the next. I'm always just me."
    • Thadd's "department" is the still relatively young field of 3D printing. When I asked her what piqued her interest in the technology, she tells me, "In a way I've always been interested in the technology. Sculpting with clay seemed so painfully slow, and many, many times I wished for the literal invention of 3D printing."
  • Thomas Anderson and Mike DahlinOperating Systems Principles & Practice (Second Edition) Volume II: Concurrency, 2015

    • When an electrician walks into a room she wired last month, she does not have to spend time trying to remember which color is which.
    • Once a philosopher picks up a chopstick, she does not release it until she is done eating, even if that means no one will ever eat.
  • YUNGBLUDmars (from the album “weird!”), 2020; This song is a pretty simple but sad story of a trans woman.

    • She dreamed she'd go to California
      There everyone would adore her
      And all her mates will call her
      'Til four in the morning”
    • But she can't be herself when she's somebody else
    • In the morning, she would take her mother's wedding ring
  • Maddy ThorsonIs Madeline Canonically Trans? (Medium), 2018

    • I mentioned earlier that I didn’t know that Madeline was trans during the development of Celeste, and that I had a hunch when we made Farewell. That was a gradual thing. As time went on post-launch, my personal understanding of Madeline shifted from “maybe she’s trans” to “okay she’s definitely trans”.
  • The NeighbourhoodSweater Weather, ; There are two main love interests in this song; when the lead singer references "she," the lyrics are referring to a partner using she/her pronouns. However, when the lead singer references "you," the love interest has switched and the gender is unknown.

    • Coming down
      One love, two mouths
      One love, one house
      No shirt, no blouse
      Just us, you find out
      Nothing that I wouldn't wanna tell you about, no, no, no
      'Cause it's too cold
      For you here
      And now, so let me hold
      Both your hands in the holes of my sweater

Singular “they” (they/them)

  • ALOKBio on personal website, 2017

    • ALOK (they/them) is a gender non-conforming writer and performance artist. Their distinctive style and poetic challenge to the gender binary have been internationally renowned. As a mixed-media artist Alok uses poetry, prose, comedy, performance, fashion design, and portraiture to explore themes of gender, race, trauma, belonging, and the human condition. They are the author of Femme in Public (2017) and Beyond the Gender Binary (2020). In 2019 they were honored as one of NBC’s Pride 50 and Out Magazine’s OUT 100. They have presented their work in more than 40 countries.
  • Dana TerraceThe Owl House (Season 2, Episode 7), 2021; Raine Whispers is the first non-binary character of Disney and they're voiced by the also non-binary voice artist, Avi Roque

    • "So the Head Witch of the Bard Coven likes pretending to be a rebel. Too bad they're not very good at it!"

  • Dana TerraceThe Owl House (Season 2, Episode 8), 2021; Raine Whispers is the first non-binary character of Disney and they're voiced by the also non-binary voice artist, Avi Roque

    • "Just tell them! Let them help!"
    • "Stop pushing them away!"

  • Hamish SteeleDead End - Paramormal Parl, 2022

    • "[...]Anway, hello, I'm Jules.
      My pronouns are they, them, and the late.
      [laughs] A little, uh, ghost jokes for you there."
  • Matt BralyAmphibia, ; Darcy is referred to with a variety of pronouns, including it/its and they/them.

  • Rebecca SugarSteven Universe Future (Episode: Litte Graduation ), 2019

    • "Great. They're so cool. I can't believe we've been dating for almost two months, now."
    • "Say "Hi" to them for me"
    • "Shep is Sadie's new partner. They met while she was on tour with the Suspects."
  • AJ and the Queen (Season 1, Episode 2: Pittsburgh), 2020

    • Or, actually, I'm not sure where he or she or they is on the gender non-binary scale.

  • Billions (Season 2, Episode 2), 2017

    • Hello, I'm Taylor. My pronouns are they, theirs, and them.
    • – She spotted that from outer space?
      – Not she. They.

  • Blockbuster (S01 E05), 2022

    • Left, left, left. I hate Quinn. I don't even know if they like movies. They come in here all the time and make everything about themselves.
    • [...] and Quinn, who never stops talking about themself, no offense.
  • City of Ghosts (Season 1, Episode 2: Venice), 2021

    • My name is Thomas. I use "they" and "them" for my pronouns.

  • DeGrassi: Next Class (Season 4, Episode 6 “#FactsOnly”), 2017

    • My favorite vlogger did a thing about this. They identify as genderqueer. Or, I think there’s another name for it. Um... Genderfluid. They feel like they’re between a boy or a girl. Or both. Or neither.

  • Glow Up (Season 3, Episode 3), 2021

    • My look is based on Claude Cahun. They were a non-binary, queer artist that played with gender and image and reclaiming the way you're perceived.