My pronouns are:

any normative

Even though for many people it's incredibly important that people use specific pronouns to talk about them, others don't mind being addressed in any way – as long as the context is clear as to who one talks about. (check out the options here.)

Example usage in sentences:

  • I think she is very nice. (she)
  • I met her recently. (she)
  • Is this his dog? (he)
  • She told me that the house is hers. (she)
  • He said he would rather do it himself. (he)


What's the deal with pronouns?:

Pronouns are those words that we use instead of calling someone by their name every time we mention them. Most people use “he/him” and “she/her”, so we automatically assume which one to call them based on someone's looks. But it's actually not that simple…

Gender is complicated. Some people “don't look like” their gender. Some prefer being called in a different way from what you'd assume. Some people don't fit into the boxes of “male” or “female” and prefer more neutral language.

This tool lets you share a link to your pronouns, with example sentences, so that you can show people how you like to be called.

Why does it matter? Because of simple human decency. You wouldn't call Ashley “Samantha” just because you like that name more or because “she looks like a Samantha to you”. Or even if she does have the name “Samantha” in her birth certificate but she absolutely hates it and prefers to use “Ashley”. And it's the exact same story with pronouns – if you don't want to be rude towards someone, please address them properly. The only difference is that we usually know names, but not pronouns. We introduce ourselves with a name, but not pronouns. Let's change that!